Are you afraid of making decisions?

[Guest]

Hi!

I?m sometimes! I mean the day is is full of decisions. Where shall i go now? Which clothes shall i wear today or which in the morning and which in the evening? ... and so on...and so on. That aren?t that which i mean. Most of them i don?t think through, i decide them instinctively.
Also there will be decisions like: Shall i buy a new car? In that case i make a checklist: What is the state of my old car? What are my requests to a new car? How much is it? How much can i pay for it? Then i have a look at the car market and i?m sure i?ll find a solution. That is not what i mean too.
What i mean is when i have to decide, i have made my checklist and thought it through. At the end my thoughts say yes but my heart - or like psychologists would say my stomach- says no. That are the moments i often had been afraid of. Sometimes when i have followed my thoughts only i was right and sometimes i?ve been wrong. The same happend when i followed my heart/stomach only.Now, if the situation isn?t clear, i give a little kick to it, look where it developes to and react upon its direction!
Did you experience similar situations too? And what is your favourite way to handle it?

Michael

[Fan Of Arabian Horses]

Sorry this topic was written by me. I only have forgotten to login!

Michael

[Spencer]

I recognised You, because You never write capital I.
I know I shouldn't write "You" ,but with the capital "Y" we show respect in letters, so I keep on doing it in english as well.
If You did it for the same reason,like You don't want to look stuck-up, then I'm sorry for pointing at it.
Spencer

(You better not try to show me MY misspellings,unless You want to open a whole new topic for it)

[Fan Of Arabian Horses]

Hi Spencer!

Thank You for this advice, I havn?t noticed it yet, also I hope I didn?t come across in a stuck up way.
Writing a letter I use "Y" too if I accost a person straight particularly if I have a request having the same intention like You have.

If I came across stuck up then I?m sorry. My intention to contact this side has been to improve my English skills at first but also I wished to find some kind people who are ready to chat with me. People like You. So if I had beared anyone of You I beg Your pardon. It wasn?t intention, it was only a result of my low range of English!

If You notice any mistakes, I made them unintentenally! Please forgive me!

Michael

[Spencer]

No, I didn't mean You are stuck-up,I wanted to say that You might write small i-s because with capital I-s You would feel like a stuck-up. It was a joke, but not the best one ever,I can see that already.
Anyway, I've got You now,it's Your turn to be rude.
Let me offer You a deal:
If one of us sees a spelling mistake in the others writing,he points at it,and no hard feelings from the part of the other.
You don't even have to waste Your time with being polite, just write the wrong word, and the correction.
I never had a teacher, so I don't mind if someone smashes my head with a plank for my mistakes than let me live with them forever.
Otherwise I'd never learn.
What do You say,bro?
Spencer

[Fan Of Arabian Horses]

Hi Spencer!

First of all I must tell you that I?ve not really been sure regarding your joke. So I begged your pardon in my latest reply. Your advice concerning the use of the capital "I" had been correct. I have had a look onto the posts of the proficient English users and have learned that they also use a capital "I" for themselves but a small "y" for the others. This way you have done me a big favour. Thank you!

Concerning your offering a deal:
I?m used to say : it?s a good idea. Only I?m a little bit afraid that we two could create a new English language if we correct us ourselves another. Might happen at last that there come sentences like:
"Bought yours a English?s book, thats help my to!"
Sorry, this example is a bit exaggerated but I myself have a lot of problems with the prepositions for instance or the vocabulary or one thing, I believe, you should have a look at too! That are the tenses! Let me explain by using an example:
You wrote: " I never had a teacher". At first it looks like the simple past. But my English Grammar Book suggests using the simple past you must mention a special point of time! Because it is also a negativ sentence you must use to do, so the correct sentence would sound: "I did not have a teacher yesterday!" But your statement should express the fact that you never had a teacher before. So the present perfect will be the correct tense and the sentence must sound: "I have never had a teacher!" I also think that everybody know what you mean although you haven?t choosen the correct tense.
Exactly the same I find in your explanation at the end of every of your posts, I think. The tenses of your verbs seem to be not correct. Correct would be in my opinion:
If you should notice any mistakes in my writing,
or
If you noticed any mistakes in my writing,
I have made them in purpose to test you.
Spencer, I?m not really sure whether it is really correct, I?m only an English learner too! So I hope, I didn?t smash your head too much, like you have noticed: my turn is to be rude sometimes.
And if we?ll have a bit good luck, one of the proficient users of the English will give a statement about that to us.

Hope I don?t come across stuck up now!

Michael

[Spencer]

Hi Michael,
You're right,I should've written "I've never had",and You made me realise my mistake.
See, it's really working out so far.
Don't worry, if we get too far, and say stupid things to each other,like "Here your go" or stuff like that, there is a bunch of teachers who's willing to jump in the topic in no time to stop us messing around.
Anyway, I don't want to look too pushy, and deep inside I know that You're right,it's just so hard to acknoledge that I'm not.
By the way, somebody please tell me:
Does my sentence make any sense?
You know: if You notice blah blah blah...
Does it?
Thanks
Spencer

Michael, I like talking to You, I hope I didn't scare You away by offering stupid deals

[Fan Of Arabian Horses]

Hi Spencer!

Why should it be stupid to agree upon a deal? Particular if it could help us to improve our skills? As I think we are righteous and correct to each other, so we could profit both from it.
By the way, how long did you stay in Canada? It seems to be easy for you to find the words which express your thoughts. This makes you a fortune and this is the way I could profit from talking to you. On the other hand I have taken lessons from my -like I believe very well- Grammar Book. So sorry for correcting you again. I have found a mistake in your latest reply: "....bunch of teachers who?s willing....". Not the bunch is willing but the teachers are. I think "who?s willing" refers to the teachers. Teachers, if you noticed any mistake please correct me.
For me it was hard to acknowledge that me English skills are miserable in January this year. In a job offering were English skills required. I wrote a letter of application in English to the employer having a look into my dictionary and described my occupational skills. Now guess what they answered:
" We don?t have any doubt about your skills! But for us it was possible to find an other applicant who fits with our requirements better."
I think you can imagine what they thought about my occupational skills! I have made ridiculous myself!!

I think I myself could take profit by having a look at your speaking skills and I?m more the formal user. So what, is it a deal without a contract?

I myself like talking to you!

Michael

[Spencer]

Hi Michael,
I don't have much time at the moment. I'd just like to let You know that I really appreciate Your help,and I'm more than happy to help You as much as I can.
Now You mentioned this "bunch of people" problem, I'm not sure wichone I should use, 'cause it's only one bunch,like a glass of water,You know what I mean.
I know it's a bad example (countable- uncountable)
but still, it's only one bunch,You see.
You're probably right, because You are the one who knows the grammar better between the two of us,but I might put it up on the grammar site,let's see what They say.
Anyway,I got to go now,
Talk to You soon
Spencer

OK I just realised that if I change the word bunch for group, I'd never use "is".
The problem is solved.
You're right again.
I'm off to bed
Good night

[Fan Of Arabian Horses]

Hi Spencer!

Hope you had a pleasant relaxation last night!

I have read your post to the topic "Dubbed version of American or British movies". I?m a little bit confused about your comment concerning the English grammar. I think I?ll forget the deal we wrote about in this topic. You?re perfectly right, you understand what you read and you can express yourself perfectly understandable. I think I have missunderstood your replies here. In spite of that I would like talking with you further. Excuse me for coming across pushy.

See you later

Michael

[Spencer]

Hey Michel,
What's this all about?
I didn't say anything like I know the grammar rules,and guess what, without that darn dictionary I wouldn't understand the half of your messages.
I even misspelled the word dictionary, at first I wrote dictonarry,I had to check it 'cause it looked funny.
Take a look at all my messages, all of them are updated at least three times, and they still look like if I was about ten year old, alone on an island.
We've made a contract, there is no end of it till one,or the other of us dies.
Spencer

[Fan Of Arabian Horses]

Hi Spencer!

[Spencer]

Hi Michael,
I think grammar is really important. I just wanted to tell that watching movies can help a lot.
There are people, like myself, who hate all the schoollike ways. I don't like to study, so I had to find another way to learn. Thank this forum, I can write already pretty good comparing to myself a couple of months ago,when I joined here. I love English,I'd like to be very good at it, so I don't mind to be corrected if I make mistakes,actually that's what I'm here for.
Just like kids,when they're growing up and learning their mother language. You wouldn't say something like "don't you ever mix up a preposition with a verb again" to a five year old.
You correct him like "it's not proper honey, you shouldn't say this"
I think when someone learns a brand new language, he (or she) is just like a child, everything should be interesting about it, but rules are mostly boring.
The answers are movies, songs, books.
And forums like this.
If You are one of those guys who like to study, I think You're lucky, and it's my luck too, 'cause with Your help,I'll learn as well.
The best way to learn is to be with people, who better than me.
Jeez, I'm so tired, I'd better stop being so wise I guess
Good night
Spencer

[Cristina]

Hi Michael and Spencer
Im a new member .... Ive been reading your letters and I was wondering if you would want me to be part of your deal?Im sure that my writing needs to be checked and you would help me a lot, waiting for your answer .......
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Brains like hearts go where they are appreciated.

[Fan Of Arabian Horses]

Hi Cris!

I like that you found this request! You can be sure that neither Spencer nor me are perfect in English. Let me express it that way: We can learn together or everyone himself alone. So Spencer and I decided to built an alliance to improve our skills. Of course, we always accept what the more proficient English user (Administrators and Moderators) advise us and also have a look to every suggestion but sometimes we think our own thoughts and YOU are invited to share our contract with us. I?m sure Spencer?s intention is the same. Pretty welcome Cris! Nice that You found the way to us!

I hope you enjoy this site and the join to us if you will do that!

Michael